Hair Through History...

A giggle.

The Mighty Pube Debate - To Have Hair or Go Bare

“The most horrifying thing is pubic hair on a woman,” Muz says. “It’s really quite frightening to the general public.” - Julie Atlas Muz, Burlesque Performer. 

I've also heard her say it as in, it's horrifying to Americans, suggesting the male population that is now so used to slick clean vajay as portrayed in media and porn. She tours around the globe, and many other countries see nothing wrong with it. Now, let me tell you, she has a full on bush. I've seen it. It's one of her trademarks in the scene, and her acts. She's done a puppet show with it, and has named it Mr.  Pussy. =D 

Here's the thing, I have this love/hate relationship with pubic hair, in general. A few of my friends have had a discussion with me about my love and enamourment of the 70's Power Muff, the Disco Dick Mitten. I mean, let's face it, a majority of us sported that Power Puff through the 80's. It was common. 

I have a character that I had even planned on having one, and the comedic banter involved, but many people get turned off by the thought.

But now, I'm wondering if it's making a comeback. If you watch Orange is the New Black, there was that whole bit about the pubic braiding. 

What about glitter in it?  The Coifed Cunt?

And a new article from Kinkly just popped up called In Defense of Pubic Hair. 

Thoughts?

My mission

I found that I often get asked in blog interviews or just through messages what it is that I hope to convey in my writing to my readers. Now granted, we know I write erotic romance. Many people would wonder if there is even a story line much less a message in those novels.  Well, I'm here to tell you that there is, at least in my books.

It's taken me almost three years to come up with an answer that I think rings true, and here it is:

I find that I take people's issues, that can be yours or mine, propelling the reader on a journey of self-exploration and perhaps healing. I have a gola to hopefully make people consider other thought patterns about live, love, sexuality. I would love to tear down the shame and guilt that many feel for their desired life. I believe if it's not hurting anyone else, and both people consent, what is done between those people in love is not wrong and they should not feel shame for their acts with each other. 

oxo JLE

You can view my collection Here.

Body Paint, Buff Dudes, and Book Signing

This past weekend I participated in my very first book signing:

Naturally Naughty In NOLA.

I have to tell you that it was the best time ever!

My only regret is not getting to meet all of the other authors or partake of the before and after parties.

Next time, I will not tell family I am there, hahaha!

I was unable to interact much at set up because this was happening!

That's right! I got body painted from the waist up body the reknown Angela Rene Roberts from Season One of Skin Wars!

I showed up like this:

and was transformed. I did the whole four hour event topless...

Hey, you know me.

Angela's husband, Cully Firmin, was the male model. He was a brave soul and went bare ass, and front too! Here we are toward the end of the signing.

I met so many wonderful people, authors, bloggers, readers, male cover models!

Check out

Alfie Gordillo

and Dusty Griffin

Two of the sweetest hunks of men you will ever get the pleasure of meeting!

This is my newest companion, Slick the Fox.

He has been bombing my Instagram with his cute self, and even attended the event with me.

He stayed and watched my table all day. 

Be prepared to see Slick and my adventures

@jenniferlassalleedwards

Live!! New Release!! Erotica!

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The Surrender of Luella – Perchance to Dream Book One 99c
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“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” -Albert Einstein

The truth can shatter our illusions, but what is truth? Often times, one person’s truth is another person’s lie.

Luella Parker doesn’t know what is real anymore after Fletcher Stevens betrays her trust, and crushes her heart. Arthur Ross is there to help her pick up the pieces, teaching her that each person’s reality is their own, and theirs alone to create. With his help, Luella pursues a dream that can become a concrete actuality – that has nothing to do with her heart.

Luella learns to look at her perception of life in a new way, living in the present moment, and she comes to see that there is more to truths than meets the eye.

Bedroom Recreation - Thigh Restraints

Thigh Restraint Sling

This one is very similar to the one we have.

It is padded around the neck and thigh portion. 

The straps adjust to pull the legs closer to the shoulders.

This allows for deeper penetration, and of course, forced exposure for any pleasure or pain being induced by your partner.

I have to say it is more comfortable than it looks and keeps you in a position that would hard to manage for long periods of time on your own, especially if you arms are also bound. It allows you to relax your body and forget about having to keep yourself in a certain position. And that means, getting to go into the flow of play and not worrying about losing your expected stance. 

I did find out you are still able to close your legs to a certain degree - you know when you're at the point of stop but don't?! But this could also be because I am very short, so the straps only adjust so far, and we did not try to poke extra holes to manipulate my legs more.

Depending how long your sessions are, do expect to find some after effects. Much like when your foot may fall asleep, legs could be a little numb and then have that tingly sensation in the joint area between your hip and thigh. 

You can find these for pretty reasonable prices, especially on Amazon. I'm not sure where ours came from, as you know, they are usually bought and sprung on me. 

Surprise!!

As I searched, I did find them ranging from between the $16 and $40 dollar range.

(One link is above)

So it's totally a fun item for a smaller cost!

Giving Back: Thoughts & Ideas

I would like your input. I am thinking of trying something - giving back if you will. I have received quite a few messages from women who have read Ripped & Twisted over the past few years, telling me how they related so much to Faith's situation with domestic violence that she escaped from. It got me thinking, and I will pick a month, maybe next month or June (probably June because May is pretty slammed & it will give me more time to plan promotion.) During that month, half of the proceeds from sales of Ripped & Twisted will go to a charity/nonprofit for those who are victims of domestic violence. I have been reviewing many, but it's overwhelming. If you have any recommendations of groups that are stellar in helping victims, please list them below. Please list them below. If you see one that you are for, like the comment, just to keep it from being too repetitive. Afterwards, I will create a poll to vote for the top groups. Then, I will plan the month and we can promote it. Does that sound good?

Also if you would like to comment on the post on my Facebook page, click this LINK.

Thanks!

No Shame, Love Yourself, Even the Parts You Hide - But Shouldn't Have To

I have been thinking a ton about self-love.

No, I'm not talking about masturbation, but I'm the first one to say YES! to it.

I'm talking about being in love with our own self and being perfectly happy about what you enjoy.

And even being proud of who we are, all of it.

It's a shame that sexuality, sex, and kink have become this thing that we are supposed to be ashamed about enjoying. We're deemed deviants, perverts, and other names that have a usually negative connotation about them. Certain acts are STILL considered taboo.

Why?

Can you tell me how wanting to dress up as Sasquatch with a pink dildo hooked to your head while your partner throws pies at you makes you a bad person?

Why is a woman who embraces her sexuality, and love of sex, considered a slut?

I guarantee you I've met people who may enjoy being pegged, have a poly relationship, or enjoy having every hole filled by human or inanimate object who are wonderful, giving, altruistic people and lead totally normal lives to the outside world.

Now, if your boss found out that you liked to wear a fox tail, paws, and furry mask while being plowed thoroughly by your guy while he's dressed as hunter, they would have a completely different view of you. How does what you do in your bedroom, or dungeon, affect your work, especially if they considered you a stellar employee before they found out?

Want to put your guy in a cock cage for three days? If he's down, hell yes, do it.

Want to roll around in a kiddie pool full of jello? Have fun!

Why if some find out a woman enjoys giving up control in the bedroom, being tied, up or dominated are told they should get their Feminism card vetoed?

Think about it. Some acts have been around since Roman times, yet somehow, STILL are not accepted as okay. 

I'm a proud kinkster.

It's part of the reason that I decided to write erotica and share on this blog.

There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex, kink, BDSM, sploshing, dressing up in furry costumes, whatever!

The openness and trust between partners to be able to voice their wants and desires is simply beautiful. There is more intimacy in confiding in your partner that you like butt stuff and know they will not judge you than just throwing on some name brand lingerie and hinting at wanting sex.

(Which I love lingerie too.)

Hell, if you told your guy you want to try and are turned on by butt stuff, he'll probably do back flips!

It saddens me that in this day and age, people have to hide and be ashamed of their desires and enjoyments for fear of losing jobs, family, and friends...or be considered immoral just because they want to try some different things in the bedroom.

How did the free love, everything goes attitude end so abruptly?

I know. I know. Technically, we don't have to go into the history and socio-economic papers and studies. It's a rhetorical question.

I'm here to tell you to embrace it. If you are going to love all of yourself, love your pervy, kink, sexual side too. It's part of you.

If you read or see something that intrigues you, don't be afraid to show your partner.

Experiment. Watch videos.

If it's between you and your partner, you agree on it, it's consensual and safe,

GO FOR IT. 

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Sploshing you say?

Also known as Wet and Messy play (WAM).

Most commonly it deals with food play, but can involve other substances as well.

But have no fear, we are not talking about bodily fluids here! Those festishes are a completely different arena.

Think shaving cream as a pie to the face...or bum.

Sitting on cakes. 

Pouring syrup on a woman, clothed or naked.

Seems like these XXXtreme Rubber Sheets would be a good investment if you're into this sort of messy play, or for a cheaper version, perhaps just hit your hardware store for some of those cheap plastic sheets for painting!

Pies to the face seem to be a big portion.

They say it's the feeling of the wet, sticky, slimy on the skin, or it could be the partner that enjoys watching it. I am ALL for food play, but my thing is then eating it or licking it off more than the act of destructing the food or watching it hit the skin. Just seems like a good dessert gone to waste, hahaha. I'm completely down with each other getting messy in the mix too.

Remember the post I did on edible body paint and icing? This could be a fun way to start and see if you're into the messiness of sploshing.

You could also play around with honey, regular icing, chocolate before smashing a baked good with your ass.

It's also a good idea to avoid getting this stuff all up inside of your delicate lady areas - or shower afterwards. I actually covered that in the notes of Candy & Kink: A Tale of Confectionery Tale of Love & Tasty Perversions.

This add seems like a WAM-er's dream!

Another way to use marshmallow fluff!

They have a great idea, playing in the  tub.

I don't know if I would get this extreme, but to me it looks like added fun, and I am love fun and even some laughs in the bedroom. Maybe it's time to up the ante on food play!

Amazon

Everywhere Else

Jared Leto...My Sex-ception. Who's yours?

We all remember that Friends episode...

The Freebie List.

A list of celebrities that you're allowed to have sex with by your significant other.

You know you have one.

We all agree to these lists because in actuality we know the chances are slim to none that it will ever happen! So we joke about it, lust after them, and daydream of your Sex-ception in our relationships.

And why not?

I, like countless women, have had a crush on Jared Leto since we first laid eyes on him in My So Called Life, oh Jordan Catalano. 

I mean, those eyes...and I swear that Jared Leto is either a vampire or has a portrait in his attic that is aging in his place. For god's sake, we're pretty much the same age. What does the man do?

Then, over the years of admiring him in film, magazines, as a musician, imagine my surprise when I saw this photo and the caption a few years ago.

Whaaaa?!

I think my heart fluttered and other parts of me may have done the same.

My old crush flamed again.

More interviews only threw gasoline on the fires when he talked about his S&M room in his new home in an old Air Force Base.

Vanity Fair.

Rolling Stone

I mean we're meant to be...well at least for one night.

😜

Lay it on me. Who's on your list? 

Valentine's Day!!

We know this means more than just a box of chocolates!

Why not ramp it up with other edible items??

It's a little late to order, but I'm pretty sure your local adult store will have something!

Edible Gummy Pecker Rings

Candy Cock Rings

Candy Tassels

Safe Sex...Toy Disposal

In the random conversations, the subject of getting rid of old, broken, damaged toys came up.

This led me to do some research because a few years ago I had heard about a company that did a "Recycle your Rabbit" Day.

Lo and behold, I came across this site:

Sex Toy Recycling.

The Sex Toy Recycling process works like this: You send your unwanted sex toy to STR (email them and they'll send you a Tyvek pouch).
But don't be a nasty skank, wash it before you send it to them please.
They then sterilize and process it. Plastics, metals and batteries are recycled as needed for non-toy purposes.

The STR website says: "We then use a patent-pending process similar to that used to recycle athletic shoes into rubber surfaces for basketball courts. The rubber and silicone is ground up, mixed with a binding agent, and remolded into new toys. For sanitary and safety reasons, each toy is then coated with a layer of new silicone. The result is a sex toy made of at least 95% post-consumer materials."

Your old faithful can live a new life and come again and again!

For a Magical Vaginal Experience?

Crystal Dildos?

Apparently so, from a place called Chakrub.

I am all for new products, however, I'm not sure what I think of these.

Or maybe it's the price, as I can get some pretty unique and awesome glass dildos for a fraction of the cost. I'm not sure if I'm will to pay close to $300 for a 'spiritual' encounter with myself.

But hey, to each their own!

Of course, the site claims that these dildos also have healing powers?!

Maybe that's worth it?

Although, I am pretty sure my pussy's powers are a.o.k. at the moment.

Besides one of its healing powers is helping anxiety, and I'm pretty sure any orgasm will help with that little situation. 

Here's a quick article that Popsugar did about them. 

If anyone gives them a go, let me know if you've become cunt-lightened!

Get to know your cooch.

8 Things you Didn't Know About Your Vagina.

#3 Concerns me...

Just like your face, your vulva wrinkles with age.

Am I going to have to botox my vag?

Even worse, they say the clit could decrease in size.

Oh please, sex gods!! Don't let my clit disappear!

I like #7...

Use it or lose it.

Exercise the bitch.

The plus?

Besides just keeping the muscles working and avoiding prolapsing walls and more, the more you have sex, the more you will want it, and are less likely to have slumps of nothing.

Just another reason why sex is a.o.k. and healthy!

An orgasm a day (or more) keeps the blues away!

Keeping Cuntzilla happy means a happier you too.

But on a serious note, how many of you have taken the time to get to know your Vag?

I'm not talking about letting your fingers do the walking or the friendly buzz of a vibe.

You've seen it done on shows, whether it's done comedically or seriously.

Feminist, sex activist and educator, Annie Sprinkle even has put hers up for display live in the past, allowing audiences to get up close and personal with a speculum and lights to see what lies within. 

And shouldn't we, as women know more about our bodies?

Take a mirror, sit down, spread em, and get to know your vagina.

Here's a rough map of the great divide to guide you along. 

Don't be ashamed of your pussy.

Treat her like your best friend.

Love her.

And who knew?

Besides vagazelling, you can gloss her up too!

Let's talk Lingerie

It's so close to Valentine's Day!

A perfect little extra?

Lingerie!

I adore it.

Let's face it too, there are millions of options from sweet & demure, latex love, vinyl vixen, beautiful bondage, pvc pussy cat, beautiful burlesque...The list could go on forever!

It's also a very simple way to spice things up in the bedroom.

I think it's very telling when a man buys bedroom clothing for his mate.

My man has run the gamut from lovely and lacey, to raunchy and 'How the hell do I put this thing on?' <- which by the way can lead to lots of fun in and of itself.

I won't even get into corsetry yet.

But let it be known if your man is great with different types of tying and knots, he can lace you tightly up and release you from the binding just as quickly. The same goes of rope, heh.

I thought I would share some fun samples from one of the online stores that I adore.

Trashy.com

Don't let the store name fool you.

This place is ah-mazing!

Believe me, I have spent my fair share at this site, especially during my burlesque days.

But don't freak out by the main pages, their sales are to die for.

This is from their Babycakes Collection.

Sexy, cute & sweet.

Their Hooded Cat Eared Teddy - meow

I will not lie. I kind of want.

Vintage Inspired

Corazon Teddy with Bullet cups

A little Razzle Dazzle?

The French Quarter Collection

Viola Babydoll

From the Vesper Collection

Masochist Collection