Back and ready...

Maybe it's because I have seen so many people afraid to ask 

Because of judgement

Because of feelings of fear and self worth

Whatever

I feel this blog must be opened back up,a safe space of learning and education.

A free space to explore.

A space to not feel like a freak or outsider.

I don't know exactly, but ask, learn and be sure you will never be judged.

I will get you the best information possible as I know it or from those I know are experts of kink.
Oh there will be silly and fun too.

Til next time!

JLE

My YouTube Channel

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Jennifer Lassalle Edwards

Free Short Story I wrote on Literotica

Through the Ages

An aging Sub confides the story of her life to her nurse.

Links to my books: 
Ripped & Twisted

Universal Link: myBook.to/RippedandTwisted

Everywhere Else: https://www.books2read.com/u/mV72Op

Candy & KinK Book Links:

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Everywhere Else: https://www.books2read.com/u/4AgRQK

PTD1 Links:
UniversalLink: http://getBook.at/JLETheSurrenderofLuella

Everywhere Else: https://www.books2read.com/u/bOrAvg

PTD2 Links:

http://mybook.to/JLEIllusins

https://www.books2read.com/u/mqpXNZ

Snow Globe Dreams - A Magical Short Story
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RN17DK7/ref=dbs_a_def_awm_bibl_vppi_i2

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Sploshing you say?

Also known as Wet and Messy play (WAM).

Most commonly it deals with food play, but can involve other substances as well.

But have no fear, we are not talking about bodily fluids here! Those festishes are a completely different arena.

Think shaving cream as a pie to the face...or bum.

Sitting on cakes. 

Pouring syrup on a woman, clothed or naked.

Seems like these XXXtreme Rubber Sheets would be a good investment if you're into this sort of messy play, or for a cheaper version, perhaps just hit your hardware store for some of those cheap plastic sheets for painting!

Pies to the face seem to be a big portion.

They say it's the feeling of the wet, sticky, slimy on the skin, or it could be the partner that enjoys watching it. I am ALL for food play, but my thing is then eating it or licking it off more than the act of destructing the food or watching it hit the skin. Just seems like a good dessert gone to waste, hahaha. I'm completely down with each other getting messy in the mix too.

Remember the post I did on edible body paint and icing? This could be a fun way to start and see if you're into the messiness of sploshing.

You could also play around with honey, regular icing, chocolate before smashing a baked good with your ass.

It's also a good idea to avoid getting this stuff all up inside of your delicate lady areas - or shower afterwards. I actually covered that in the notes of Candy & Kink: A Tale of Confectionery Tale of Love & Tasty Perversions.

This add seems like a WAM-er's dream!

Another way to use marshmallow fluff!

They have a great idea, playing in the  tub.

I don't know if I would get this extreme, but to me it looks like added fun, and I am love fun and even some laughs in the bedroom. Maybe it's time to up the ante on food play!

Amazon

Everywhere Else

Get to know your cooch.

8 Things you Didn't Know About Your Vagina.

#3 Concerns me...

Just like your face, your vulva wrinkles with age.

Am I going to have to botox my vag?

Even worse, they say the clit could decrease in size.

Oh please, sex gods!! Don't let my clit disappear!

I like #7...

Use it or lose it.

Exercise the bitch.

The plus?

Besides just keeping the muscles working and avoiding prolapsing walls and more, the more you have sex, the more you will want it, and are less likely to have slumps of nothing.

Just another reason why sex is a.o.k. and healthy!

An orgasm a day (or more) keeps the blues away!

Keeping Cuntzilla happy means a happier you too.

But on a serious note, how many of you have taken the time to get to know your Vag?

I'm not talking about letting your fingers do the walking or the friendly buzz of a vibe.

You've seen it done on shows, whether it's done comedically or seriously.

Feminist, sex activist and educator, Annie Sprinkle even has put hers up for display live in the past, allowing audiences to get up close and personal with a speculum and lights to see what lies within. 

And shouldn't we, as women know more about our bodies?

Take a mirror, sit down, spread em, and get to know your vagina.

Here's a rough map of the great divide to guide you along. 

Don't be ashamed of your pussy.

Treat her like your best friend.

Love her.

And who knew?

Besides vagazelling, you can gloss her up too!

Lubricant Tales and a Free Sample

Let's face it. Sometimes, no matter how excited you are to get down and dirty, your body may react otherwise. You may need a little help to ease into the situation.

Or, it may be a scenario where lube is absolutely vital to smooth transitions.

*cough*buttstuff*cough*

 Different tools, implements, also require a little help at times, especially if they are larger or oddly shaped, or depending on the materials they are made from.

Then, there's just the fact that as we ladies age, we have, at times, issues lubricating ourselves.

There are so many options out there now as well.

Lubes that desensitize for longer play.

Lubes that warm.

Lubes that tingle.

Flavored lubes.

It's a virtual lube buffet!

We always sample and test out new ones.

One thing I will tell you is that I am not a fan of lube launchers.

In theory, it's a great idea.
You're able to apply liberal amounts of lube deeper, and thicker, than fingers perhaps can all in one shot.
However, in my experience, and you may want to graze over this.
Within minutes, my stomach flopped, ached, cramped, and I was clenching my tail and had to cease all play for the night. For me, this was just a thick enema. I can't handle that much in the back door.
Lesson learned.
And a night of embarrassment accomplished.

We are huge fans of Astroglide and K-Y, which are popular brands, and can be found virtually anywhere. In fact, I've bought tons of samples for my signings to give away.
If you want to give a lube a try, I will suggest Astroglide for sure.
In fact, if you go to their website, you can pick from selected products of theirs, and they will send a free sample to your door.
Astroglide Free Sample

Couples Massager

I actually received a question about one of these this week.
Luckily, I have experience with couples massagers.

In case you aren't familiar, these were the type I was asked about.

Two popular brands are We-Vibe and Lelo.
(Click the links to see their varieties.)
Hell, I've even seen a version at Walgreens!

These are remote controlled, and now, some can even be controlled by an app on your smartphone too.
Here's the fun thing about these little guys: you wear them during sex.
Yes!
Double the pleasure, double the fun.

It gets slipped on inside of the lady parts. Of course, the outside is for clitorial action, the inside for G fun. Then, your man can come on in to enjoy the vibrations, and you, while he controls the speed of the vibe.
(I would recommend a little lube for smooth entry of both. 😉)

These can also be worn alone, and your partner can control your vibrations whether it be in the next room or out at dinner or out shopping or another state. Get your freak on.

However, it is more fun together.

Sure it's fun to read about and fantasize about, buy how many of you would actually do THAT stuff?

As you all know, I write erotica.

Erotica that delves into the realms of BDSM, D/s, S&M, kink...

When I became an author, I found myself in many book groups.

Many of these groups are women who love to read erotica.

There is always lively discussion, jokes, humor, the latest read, pictures, lust of a character, and more.

However, it never fails in a group that the above question comes up. 

It seems unbelievable to more women than I thought, that couples partake of the kinky stuff in real life. This is where I usually pop up and shatter their illusions with my quip, humor, and talk of my collection and what activities that I actually am involved in.

They are normally, first, a little shocked, then curious.

Here's the thing, I answer the questions.

I post links, give links to very reputable sites, and post pics and my experiences.

I think that so many of us that enjoy alternative sexual lifestyles have hidden for far too long. What I have learned is that many people are not going to run after you with burning torches and scream, "SHAME!!" at you. Does this mean I fly my flag all over the place? No.

I know there are people with different sensibilities where my thoughts on nipple clamps, gag balls, spanking implements, bondage devices would not be appreciated.

However, I love sharing any little bit of knowledge that I have learned.

I recently divulged to a very few close friends that we do actually do many of 'those' things that I write about. If nothing else, when I began publishing, it opened our world even more. My SO was more than happy to continue to explore further than we had been in the past. 

He jokes, "If you're going to write about XYZ, you should have the experiences behind it to portray it accurately." So, now, whenever a new idea pops into my head, off we go to buy the new gadget. Or if I find something crazy on the web, well, let's give it a go!

I find that in my new works, I am sprinkling tips and advice more throughout my stories.

And yes, I love a spanking. I find it arousing. Sometimes it's just to alleviate my pent up anger or anxiety. It works for me. I like surprise attacks when I am going about normal everyday chores.

And as you've seen, I love many, many implements of pleasure, as I usually share ours with you about them.  

So, yes, I would actually do it, and I do.

Peace, joy!
Stay Kinky My Friends!
xoxo
Your Friendly Neighborhood Smut Author

Tails...Bling for your bum

It may or may not be known that I have a fascination with butt plugs.

It should be clear as I stuck one on the cover of my first book, subtly. 

My collection is wide and varied.

Today, I wanted to talk about one of my pretty pony tails.

(We'll get into the bunny tail another day <- disaster with lube)

Aren't they pretty?

And you can do kitty play with them too.

For those who worry, the tail actually is removable from the glass plug, which makes for easy cleaning of both parts.

The glass is very comfortable, and the size of the one I was given is a perfect fit.

Now to those who are skeptical, you don't have to be into pet play to have fun with a tail. 

It can be all about a new sensation play.

The long tail is super soft, and there is definitely something to be said about the swishing of it against your skin, the back of your thighs, against your butt cheeks, even the sides of your thighs or your lower back if you get to swinging it around.
-Which I may or may not have done goofing around with it while enjoying some other attention from a hand doing a few extra smacks, or you know something.

(Not mine, but pretty much looks like this)

And they come so many colors!

https://crystaldelights.com/

Besides, who says everything kinky has to be intense or serious.

These are fun, cute, sexy, and a little quirky.

So, really play when you play. 

It's okay to laugh  while you f%#k after all.

Enjoy your bedroom recreation on another level of fun.

Goody! May is upon us!

Do you know what that means?!

Masturbation Month!

I have posts galore planned. We can let our fingers doing the walking.

We can explore dildos, vibes, tongues...

Scientific benefits to orgasms, why not more a day?

Mutual masturbation.

Or just watching a partner masturbate.

Masturbation techniques for guys and gals.

So much more!

Because let's face it, whether you're single, married, have multiple partners, we all deserve self-love.

Come On Girl...Get On Top

Bustle

I must admit, this is one position that has never failed me.

Every. Single. Time. I achieve the big 'O.'

Sure, it's not the most exciting position out there, but to me all positions are exciting.

It's definitely enjoyable.

There are no acrobatics involved, no gravity defying feats, no worrying about dropping to your head.

However, in this position, there is definite stimulation of the mons pubis, along with the clitoris that results in an explosion!

Imagine those pre-pubescent times humping a pillow in early exploration.

What? You didn't do that?

Except this pillow is warm, working back, and has a nice cock penetrating too.

So, see that pretty pic?

It's all about sliding and grinding, not bouncing up and down in a sitting position.

I find in sliding and grinding, some slow circles too, I don't even need to lend myself a hand in this position.

You can also play with how deep or hard you want to go.

There are many variations.

You may want to slide until your partner is almost completely out of you, just leaving his tip in for a few seconds before you slam back down.

However, when I'm getting close, I just can't do that one, lol. 

However, it's difficult even still for most women to climax without even more direct stimulation of the clitoris. It's fun to either do it yourself, or have him help along, or even together.

I love when he pushes my hand, 'forcing' me to play with the little bean.

You can always use a mini vibrator.

Another favorite are silicone cock-rings that have a mini-bullet attached and encased in a soft jelly-type coating. THOSE are fun with all positions!

And sometimes, it's just fun to surprise your man, jump on top of him and take advantage!

So, girls, Get On Top!

For Fun! Sex Positions That Double as Exercise!

I love articles like this.

(Link at bottom)

Why not get more bang for your buck?

Or rather fuck?

You may recall the post that I previously wrote:

Increased libido and an enhanced sex life, you say?

where I discussed the benefits of exercise not only on your health, but libido as well.

Due to my interest in fitness, my time competing as an amateur, and always striving for a better body, I love linking that interest with, of course, sex!

And why not find and test ways to make our love lives better that do not always involve bought implements of pleasure.

This article impressed me because for each position you get what areas it is working and how to properly execute said position!

How fun is that?

I may be adding even extra cardio to my daily routines!

Why not plan a position a day?

By the way, there are tons of fun books out there that have a position a day for 365 days...

I may own one or two.

I've even found some apps for that!

Check out your google play store for free apps

Here's the link of a quick search:

https://play.google.com/store/search?q=positions%20in%20the%20bedroom&c=apps&hl=en

Click on the link below

for the Fitness Magazine Article of Sex Positions that Double as Exercise!

Images such as the one above are on the page.

Click an image and let the fun begin!

And if you're feeling it...

77 Positions in 77 Days!

A Cosmo article where a writer banged out 77 positions in 77 Days!

Another from Woman's Day

10 Sex Positions that Replace the Gym

(I wouldn't necessarily say replace, but an additional fun workout to your gym routine)

But most of all

ENJOY THIS KIND OF WORKOUT!

Bonus article:

I Turned My Sex Life Into An Exercise Routine

(I may try some of her tips - Interval Sex?!)

Truth vs. Fiction: actually living it vs. online play

Oh my...

I'm just going to throw it out there.

There are several times a day that I seriously face palm myself.

This is the down side of belonging to so many groups, and I will put myself over the fire, erotic author groups are sometimes the worse.

Now, don't get me wrong.

They are huge fun for games, pics, memes, what if's, etc.

However, if there are serious discussions, I often, yes, face palm, smack my head, I have even literally smacked my head down into a tabletop reading posts.

If one is bringing up discussion in jest, AWESOME.

I am totally down with the fun, silly, ridiculous scenarios.

Bring on the irony, smut, double innuendos, story time!

Then, there are those who want to get into frank discussions, flex their 'knowing' arms...

and they are just coming off as vag wash = douches.

Now, sadly, I feel awful for these ladies (and sometimes men) who fall for their talk.

Everything these Don Juans of Kink and BDSM say and do send up signals.

Danger! Danger, Will Robinson!

I feel sad for these folks. I have tried to intervene only to be bashed.

Now, granted, I have not had a full on D/s relationship, I have spent many years among Doms and Dommes. I have witnessed, observed, studied. I  have seen things in real life that many only read about.

I have switched to play, to learn, to see what I liked.

I may have a little masochist in me... maybe more than a little.

I am DEEP into kink. I am still curious and want to learn and experience more. I find Master/Slave relationships absolutely beyond fascinating!

I know people in poly relationships. 

Oh my god... I am HIGHLY into this...well, hearing and learning about it, lol.
But you know that whole sandwich fantasy thing.

I have long term friends who swing.

If you have followed me, you know I have stripped, burlesqued, gotten naked purely for fun, have no worries with that.

I think women are absolutely wonderful, sexy, and I lust after some and to be some of them.

I am not ashamed of anything that I have done.

I do not consider it wrong or right...just me.

I have never, nor will ever claim to know all or end all of anything.

I do continue to explore, talk, educate, and study.

I LOVE it all, never wavering from a serious discussion.

And then tonight, I see yet another so called Dom/Master spurting off his views.

And bad sub/slave that I would want to be makes me want to bash him with a baseball bat.

Now that's MY Domme side (I use that loosely, because I really am not at all, just bitchy), because I call bullshit on your ways.

But being me... I make a snarky comment, hoping to be passive in my judgement.

Then, I think that me judging anyone is awful. 

I am super lucky in the relationship that I am and have been in now.

Maybe, I am just trying to say, please, do not trust too lightly.

Study anything and anyone beforehand.

Do not get your heart invested.

And if you want a more in depth view, please visit this website.
His posts are so highly informative!
A Master's Viewpoint of the BDSM World