Sure it's fun to read about and fantasize about, buy how many of you would actually do THAT stuff?

As you all know, I write erotica.

Erotica that delves into the realms of BDSM, D/s, S&M, kink...

When I became an author, I found myself in many book groups.

Many of these groups are women who love to read erotica.

There is always lively discussion, jokes, humor, the latest read, pictures, lust of a character, and more.

However, it never fails in a group that the above question comes up. 

It seems unbelievable to more women than I thought, that couples partake of the kinky stuff in real life. This is where I usually pop up and shatter their illusions with my quip, humor, and talk of my collection and what activities that I actually am involved in.

They are normally, first, a little shocked, then curious.

Here's the thing, I answer the questions.

I post links, give links to very reputable sites, and post pics and my experiences.

I think that so many of us that enjoy alternative sexual lifestyles have hidden for far too long. What I have learned is that many people are not going to run after you with burning torches and scream, "SHAME!!" at you. Does this mean I fly my flag all over the place? No.

I know there are people with different sensibilities where my thoughts on nipple clamps, gag balls, spanking implements, bondage devices would not be appreciated.

However, I love sharing any little bit of knowledge that I have learned.

I recently divulged to a very few close friends that we do actually do many of 'those' things that I write about. If nothing else, when I began publishing, it opened our world even more. My SO was more than happy to continue to explore further than we had been in the past. 

He jokes, "If you're going to write about XYZ, you should have the experiences behind it to portray it accurately." So, now, whenever a new idea pops into my head, off we go to buy the new gadget. Or if I find something crazy on the web, well, let's give it a go!

I find that in my new works, I am sprinkling tips and advice more throughout my stories.

And yes, I love a spanking. I find it arousing. Sometimes it's just to alleviate my pent up anger or anxiety. It works for me. I like surprise attacks when I am going about normal everyday chores.

And as you've seen, I love many, many implements of pleasure, as I usually share ours with you about them.  

So, yes, I would actually do it, and I do.

Peace, joy!
Stay Kinky My Friends!
xoxo
Your Friendly Neighborhood Smut Author

Tails...Bling for your bum

It may or may not be known that I have a fascination with butt plugs.

It should be clear as I stuck one on the cover of my first book, subtly. 

My collection is wide and varied.

Today, I wanted to talk about one of my pretty pony tails.

(We'll get into the bunny tail another day <- disaster with lube)

Aren't they pretty?

And you can do kitty play with them too.

For those who worry, the tail actually is removable from the glass plug, which makes for easy cleaning of both parts.

The glass is very comfortable, and the size of the one I was given is a perfect fit.

Now to those who are skeptical, you don't have to be into pet play to have fun with a tail. 

It can be all about a new sensation play.

The long tail is super soft, and there is definitely something to be said about the swishing of it against your skin, the back of your thighs, against your butt cheeks, even the sides of your thighs or your lower back if you get to swinging it around.
-Which I may or may not have done goofing around with it while enjoying some other attention from a hand doing a few extra smacks, or you know something.

(Not mine, but pretty much looks like this)

And they come so many colors!

https://crystaldelights.com/

Besides, who says everything kinky has to be intense or serious.

These are fun, cute, sexy, and a little quirky.

So, really play when you play. 

It's okay to laugh  while you f%#k after all.

Enjoy your bedroom recreation on another level of fun.

Truth vs. Fiction: actually living it vs. online play

Oh my...

I'm just going to throw it out there.

There are several times a day that I seriously face palm myself.

This is the down side of belonging to so many groups, and I will put myself over the fire, erotic author groups are sometimes the worse.

Now, don't get me wrong.

They are huge fun for games, pics, memes, what if's, etc.

However, if there are serious discussions, I often, yes, face palm, smack my head, I have even literally smacked my head down into a tabletop reading posts.

If one is bringing up discussion in jest, AWESOME.

I am totally down with the fun, silly, ridiculous scenarios.

Bring on the irony, smut, double innuendos, story time!

Then, there are those who want to get into frank discussions, flex their 'knowing' arms...

and they are just coming off as vag wash = douches.

Now, sadly, I feel awful for these ladies (and sometimes men) who fall for their talk.

Everything these Don Juans of Kink and BDSM say and do send up signals.

Danger! Danger, Will Robinson!

I feel sad for these folks. I have tried to intervene only to be bashed.

Now, granted, I have not had a full on D/s relationship, I have spent many years among Doms and Dommes. I have witnessed, observed, studied. I  have seen things in real life that many only read about.

I have switched to play, to learn, to see what I liked.

I may have a little masochist in me... maybe more than a little.

I am DEEP into kink. I am still curious and want to learn and experience more. I find Master/Slave relationships absolutely beyond fascinating!

I know people in poly relationships. 

Oh my god... I am HIGHLY into this...well, hearing and learning about it, lol.
But you know that whole sandwich fantasy thing.

I have long term friends who swing.

If you have followed me, you know I have stripped, burlesqued, gotten naked purely for fun, have no worries with that.

I think women are absolutely wonderful, sexy, and I lust after some and to be some of them.

I am not ashamed of anything that I have done.

I do not consider it wrong or right...just me.

I have never, nor will ever claim to know all or end all of anything.

I do continue to explore, talk, educate, and study.

I LOVE it all, never wavering from a serious discussion.

And then tonight, I see yet another so called Dom/Master spurting off his views.

And bad sub/slave that I would want to be makes me want to bash him with a baseball bat.

Now that's MY Domme side (I use that loosely, because I really am not at all, just bitchy), because I call bullshit on your ways.

But being me... I make a snarky comment, hoping to be passive in my judgement.

Then, I think that me judging anyone is awful. 

I am super lucky in the relationship that I am and have been in now.

Maybe, I am just trying to say, please, do not trust too lightly.

Study anything and anyone beforehand.

Do not get your heart invested.

And if you want a more in depth view, please visit this website.
His posts are so highly informative!
A Master's Viewpoint of the BDSM World

Increased libido and an enhanced sex life, you say?

I have a few passions. Fitness, writing, food, and of course, sex!

I mean, shouldn't we all enjoy sex?

And sometimes even mix food and sex, but that's another post.

Hence why I like to share anything to enhance that part of peoples' lives.

What if I told you that there is any easy way to increase libido?

Now, I know many of us do not need help in that department.

Perhaps, some of us just would like to have it heightened?

Fitness will do that.

No lie.

There's science to prove it.

And no, I do not mean that you have to get to this level to feel those effects either.

Although, I'm not complaining when I get to that level again...or if I found him hanging around my bedroom.

*points up*

Now granted, we know that feeling better about ourselves automatically increases our self-confidence which will make us a little less inhibited when our clothes fly off.

However, even twenty minutes of exercise will cause endorphins, testosterone, and circulation to our genitals to surge. 

I know you're seeing the word 'testosterone' there and thinking that the word is usually associated with men. However, that hormone works for women too! 

Let's just say it's an overall hormone of arousal in both sexes.

I have read one study that said: 

Physical activity was shown to prime a woman’s body for sexual activity by making her more sensitive to touch and increasing the efficacy of stimuli, while men experience improved sexual function and better orgasms.

(found in this article)

Maybe it's all of that additional blood rushing to those naughty bits!

Also, as you become more vigorous with the exercises, the length of time of your workouts, and include more days, well, the effects rise too.

Have you heard people discuss a runner's high?

I had a friend who was a long distance runner. He once told me about that experience, and that he also could orgasm while running. I did not believe him.

Then...as I became more involved in competing, as my workouts became more intense and longer, lo and behold, I found myself becoming randy during them?! It was crazy to believe that one could be on the verge of orgasm while exercising.

How about them apples?

It definitely made working out more fun, and when I started carrying a little something extra along in my bag. That's another post too.

So, maybe give twenty minutes a shot, and have a banana afterwards.
*wink*

All images are royalty free stock images.

Quiet Time

I don't think many people even read this blog,

which is okay because I can then spew random crazy and not have backlash...

or be ridiculed too much.

Either way, I've been quiet.

I promise that I will not be disappearing.

I have my fingers in many pies so to speak,

and may be indulging in confections and pastries too.

There are many projects at hand.

I am excited about them all.

My brain and hands cannot keep up at the moment.

I have not even been able to have my weekly trips to the adult store anymore!

For shame.

How else am I supposed to buy and try out research for the accuracy of the perversions, debauchery and depravity of  toys  items and scenarios?

Ripped & Twisted has been getting great reviews, and I must admit, it shocks and awes me.

I only hope it continues to do so, although it is in a niche that is not very widely read.

I strive to continue to better my writing and create stories that people continue to love.

Thank you to anyone who has read it and has left a review.

I never thought that I would appreciate reviews as much as I do.

Secretly, they terrify me as well.

I am also grateful for those who have recommended my work to others.

You all make this endeavor completely worth it.

Being a teeny plankton in this vast sea of indie authors is rough, but incredibly rewarding.

Whenever I feel discouraged, or perhaps that I shouldn't be pursuing weaving kinky tales, I turn to you to make me move forward and type.

Once again, Thank You!

(photo credit goes to Mr. & Mrs. D for this lovely one)

You know what today is!

And guess what?

We now live down the road from here.

(p.s. It's been for sale for years o.O)

I suppose that I will have to try and not have sex outside tonight, 

drink, smoke, have my boobs spontaneously fly out of my top...