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Preaching to the Perverted

Good morning!

I have been MIA, but also just fighting a sickness for the past few weeks.

Since I have been sort of laying low, and blah, I had some time to watch movies.

We do not have cable, actually have not had it for over ten years.

We do, however, have a massive DVD collection, and I decided to go back through some of our old collections. I had forgotten about all of the wonderful old underground  and lesser known flicks we have.

I popped this one in yesterday because I remember the stunning costumes...

Preaching to the Perverted is from 1997.

It deals with the underground BDSM scene in London, and the governement's attempts at infiltrating them to shut them down. Oh those groups of morals and ethics.

The main scene is run by Mistress Tanya Cheex, an reknown American Mistress.

The nights rotate around London, and they use cryptic computer messages to alert those on the in.
The government sends in a young man undercover, but eventually he falls in with the whole deviant group.

This is not your ordinary fare, and though a bit cheesy, it's highly entertaining.

The men are mainly slaves.

There are auctions, whippings, piercing, electrocution, pony play and more.

Sure parts are a little over the top, but I know some of these scenarios actually do take place...

If nothing else, the makeup and costumes and scenes are stunning, and made me want to reinvest in my vinyle and satins.

This movie was one of the ones that made me want to pursue more, and influences my characters, especially the ones in upcoming novels. Beauty and strength and power.

It's available to watch on Amazon, Free with Amazon Prime.

And if you're so inclined to buy the video, it's available to BUY too.

I get no kickbacks from the stuff I talk about or recommend.

Flexi Felix from Fun Factory! Let's talk anal play.

Fun Factory says Felix is your butt's best friend.
And let's face it, he's just too cute to be scary!
In case you weren't quite sure, yes, it's anal beads.
He was part of my Christmas of Butt Love Extravaganza.
I often recommend beads for early anal play, after you've experimented with tongues and fingers.
There are very small plugs that work too, but beads are a slow work up, flexible, and feel a little less intrusive - especially if you're hesitant about anal play.
We'll discuss scarier looking anal hooks at another time.

He is super soft and flexible with the beads increasing in size the closer you get to his head.
I will state that he is long, a little over a foot, but don't be intimidated by length.
No one ever said that you had to go further than the first bead on his cute tail...to begin.

And as always, lube always aids in the fun.


I've gotten questions about anal play before, the most frequent that people are scared to address is mess. Here is my short answer. Sex often includes bodily secretions, however, anal is usually planned for, or you have an inkling it could be happening. This way, we can take extra time to make sure our hygiene is taken care of. If it is spontaneous, you often know if something is around up there, that's when you can halt play and decide how to approach the block in play from there - either skip it or move on to another activity. In my experience, though, the mess is just a ton of lube.

If your curiosity is piqued about beginning anal play and have questions, I have attached a great article from one of my favorite sites, Kinkly.
Your Top 10 Questions about Anal Play Answered! 

And while you are there, you can check out the Sexy Excerpt from my first novel Ripped & Twisted that they graciously posted!

Couples Massager

I actually received a question about one of these this week.
Luckily, I have experience with couples massagers.

In case you aren't familiar, these were the type I was asked about.

Two popular brands are We-Vibe and Lelo.
(Click the links to see their varieties.)
Hell, I've even seen a version at Walgreens!

These are remote controlled, and now, some can even be controlled by an app on your smartphone too.
Here's the fun thing about these little guys: you wear them during sex.
Yes!
Double the pleasure, double the fun.

It gets slipped on inside of the lady parts. Of course, the outside is for clitorial action, the inside for G fun. Then, your man can come on in to enjoy the vibrations, and you, while he controls the speed of the vibe.
(I would recommend a little lube for smooth entry of both. 😉)

These can also be worn alone, and your partner can control your vibrations whether it be in the next room or out at dinner or out shopping or another state. Get your freak on.

However, it is more fun together.

Sure it's fun to read about and fantasize about, buy how many of you would actually do THAT stuff?

As you all know, I write erotica.

Erotica that delves into the realms of BDSM, D/s, S&M, kink...

When I became an author, I found myself in many book groups.

Many of these groups are women who love to read erotica.

There is always lively discussion, jokes, humor, the latest read, pictures, lust of a character, and more.

However, it never fails in a group that the above question comes up. 

It seems unbelievable to more women than I thought, that couples partake of the kinky stuff in real life. This is where I usually pop up and shatter their illusions with my quip, humor, and talk of my collection and what activities that I actually am involved in.

They are normally, first, a little shocked, then curious.

Here's the thing, I answer the questions.

I post links, give links to very reputable sites, and post pics and my experiences.

I think that so many of us that enjoy alternative sexual lifestyles have hidden for far too long. What I have learned is that many people are not going to run after you with burning torches and scream, "SHAME!!" at you. Does this mean I fly my flag all over the place? No.

I know there are people with different sensibilities where my thoughts on nipple clamps, gag balls, spanking implements, bondage devices would not be appreciated.

However, I love sharing any little bit of knowledge that I have learned.

I recently divulged to a very few close friends that we do actually do many of 'those' things that I write about. If nothing else, when I began publishing, it opened our world even more. My SO was more than happy to continue to explore further than we had been in the past. 

He jokes, "If you're going to write about XYZ, you should have the experiences behind it to portray it accurately." So, now, whenever a new idea pops into my head, off we go to buy the new gadget. Or if I find something crazy on the web, well, let's give it a go!

I find that in my new works, I am sprinkling tips and advice more throughout my stories.

And yes, I love a spanking. I find it arousing. Sometimes it's just to alleviate my pent up anger or anxiety. It works for me. I like surprise attacks when I am going about normal everyday chores.

And as you've seen, I love many, many implements of pleasure, as I usually share ours with you about them.  

So, yes, I would actually do it, and I do.

Peace, joy!
Stay Kinky My Friends!
xoxo
Your Friendly Neighborhood Smut Author

Tails...Bling for your bum

It may or may not be known that I have a fascination with butt plugs.

It should be clear as I stuck one on the cover of my first book, subtly. 

My collection is wide and varied.

Today, I wanted to talk about one of my pretty pony tails.

(We'll get into the bunny tail another day <- disaster with lube)

Aren't they pretty?

And you can do kitty play with them too.

For those who worry, the tail actually is removable from the glass plug, which makes for easy cleaning of both parts.

The glass is very comfortable, and the size of the one I was given is a perfect fit.

Now to those who are skeptical, you don't have to be into pet play to have fun with a tail. 

It can be all about a new sensation play.

The long tail is super soft, and there is definitely something to be said about the swishing of it against your skin, the back of your thighs, against your butt cheeks, even the sides of your thighs or your lower back if you get to swinging it around.
-Which I may or may not have done goofing around with it while enjoying some other attention from a hand doing a few extra smacks, or you know something.

(Not mine, but pretty much looks like this)

And they come so many colors!

https://crystaldelights.com/

Besides, who says everything kinky has to be intense or serious.

These are fun, cute, sexy, and a little quirky.

So, really play when you play. 

It's okay to laugh  while you f%#k after all.

Enjoy your bedroom recreation on another level of fun.

Sensory Deprivation?

Yay or nay?

I know some people are completely against it.

They do not like their whole face covered, perhaps feel claustrophobic, suffocated.

And I totally get that, but I find it can be a complete new experience.

Have you tried a sensory deprivation suit? 

Looks weird, right?

Let's look at it in a different way.

Imagine not knowing what's coming.

You can't see anything. Your hearing is muffled. Your breathing is heated.

When something touches you, you're not sure what it is. The slap, touch, pinch is altered.

Still not intrigued?

Would you be willing to start with just the deprivation mask?

There are many varieties from completely restricted to ones which have 'air' holes.

Think of it as a few steps further than the mundane blindfold.

I sort of have an affinity for the animal shaped ones...

Maybe take baby steps in this field if you are hesitant about feeling closed off.

Masks period are fun. Begin with a fun half or 3/4 face mask before covering your whole head.

It's definitely a unique experience. 

Maybe it's a limit/boundary you could try pushing.

Just for fun. This is one of me from years ago.

Now, I had to cut eyes in my suit eventually when I started using it for stage, but you get the idea.

(And sorry, here I had on another outfit underneath because I had a two minute change time)

But I was walked on my all fours on a leash across stage in this fun outfit.. 

Orgasms and Vibrators, a little history lesson.

A long time ago, in a century far away, women were believed to not have sex drive.

It was unheard of then for women to actually crave sex.

So when women of the Victorian Era would go to their doctor complaining of irritability, restlessness,  strange kinky daydreams, weird heavy feelings in their lower abdomen, and wetness between their legs, those smart medical gents dubbed these women afflicted with "hysteria."  (This comes from the Greek word for uterus.)

From Psychology Today:

But ironically, women's sexual pleasure was the furthest thing from the minds of the male doctors who invented vibrators almost two centuries ago. They were interested in a labor-saving device to spare their hands the fatigue they developed giving handjobs to a steady stream of 19th century ladies who suffered from “hysteria,” a vaguely defined ailment easily recognizable today as sexual frustration. 

So it seems that massages with happy endings are a long standing tonic for all sorts of ailments.

Thus Dr. J. Mortimer Granville invented a machine to save all of these weary doctors some time from patients v-jays everyday and probably their fingers and wrists from cramping.

However, the first medical vibrators were HUGE and could only be used in the office itself.

They were such a huge hit with the Victorian sexually frustrated ladies that they began to demand versions for their homes. 

Now, I want to point out that phallic forms and devices were used long before this period, and encouraged to be used to relieve the tensions women had. However, the Victorian era was so straight-laced that any form of sexual self stimulation was deemed immoral.

I can only imagine that's why women went to their physicians because then it could not seem like a perverted proclivity, but an actual medical ailment.

It's just funny that some of the massage techniques employed by the doctors and nurses included oiling up their fingers to penetrate the ladies lovely vaginas while massaging their clitoral region with their hand. Luckily, the new vibrating hysteria machines were recognized as medicine for these ladies (married, widowed, single) who could not get their groove on with anyone else. 

As vibration machines entered more houses, they became known for other uses as not to upset the delicate moral values of the time. I mean, we still see the ads for 'neck massagers.' My violet wand is advertised for better skin, reducing wrinkles even today!

So thank you Dr. J. Mortimer Granville for you spicy invention.

You bring so many of us relief, joy, reduced stress and better sleep!

The variety is endless.

Happy first day of Masturbation Month!

Just a swingin'

Guess what good little girls get?

Or maybe it's bad girls?

Dirty girls?

Naughty girls?

Or just loved girls?!

That's right!

I believe our office/guest room is slowly becoming a kink room.

Husband said, "It's for your red room."

I said, "Screw a red room. Let's paint it purple and black!"

I foresee hours of fun and giggles.

It should be fun to review this item!

After we clear the space...

I am thinking of digging out the stripper pole too from being stored in the crawl space.

If we're going to have a fun room, we might as well go all out, no?

That time I was acquainted with a Dominatrix.

Well over a decade ago, I began my journey into the life of kink.

I mean, I had read the Anne Rice Sleeping Beauty books. I had read some de Sade and other books available at the time that I could find in a library or big book store.

Yes, this was before Amazon and Kindle could fill us with millions of erotic tales.

I was heavy into the Goth scene and sported tons of leather, vinyl, black, lace, boots, corsets.

I had an inkling of what I was heading to, but was not sure where or how to go about my hidden little desires and fantasies.

Luckily, I had begun dating this guy (hubs) who had a perverted, twisty side too.

It was the earlier days of the emergence of the Neo-Burlesque scene.

I was fascinated, and years later, I would finally enter that stage and performed for quite a number of years. However, I digress.

I remember going with my partner and watching the gritty, punk, fetished out show.

We began seeing them regularly and began small conversations among the girls.

Lo and behold, one of the glorious amazon ladies was also...

a Dominatrix.

I had never met such a person before. I was completely enthralled with all she told us.

My now hubs actually did a photo shoot with her for her website at the time.

She had a complete dungeon.

She had stockades, cock stocks, spanking horses, was deep into medical devices and needle play. I remember the first time I saw pictures of a penis that she had basically Jacob Laddered with needles.

Over a decade ago, I also had no idea about anal hooks, urethral dialators?!

Whips, chains, nipple clamps, cock cages, sensory deprivation suits....

The list went on and on!

I had never known a person could make a living providing these services.

I also adore that someone is so free, unhindered, and not hung up on trips of what anyone's sex life, fetishes or desires should be.

It made me want to open up more.

I thought about being a webcam girl. I wanted to make fetish clothing and accessories. 

Personally, I'm not into handing out punishments, being the dominant, or the sado side of play, but I still am intrigued by those who do, and love to watch.

(And sometimes I do admit that I like to give spanks besides receive, lol)

She did demonstrations as fetish events, so I got to see her in action with rope bondage and paddlings.

I immediately wanted to up our game of bedroom recreation!

I mean I had read books for years, but had never witnessed so much or had first person knowledge as explanations. Hence, my own research began.

Perhaps this is why I like to use different bedroom scenarios from what is usually found in other erotica/BDSM books. I love the different, have a propensity for the twisted and depraved, and perhaps want to introduce more people to creative ways to spice up and explore their sex lives.

Real people do participate and live these lifestyles.

It's a shame that we are meant to feel ashamed about it or hide what we enjoy.

I followed her on the web for a while. She was in some fetish films too. 

I recently did a search, and I see she is still around and offering her services and sessions, including tons of Sissy humiliation, spanking, pegging, and more. 

And she still looks just as stunning as I remember her looking back then.

Maybe I'll throw her link in the Kinks & Links section. ;)

Vintage Kink-o-rama

I love, love, love finding vintage erotica.

By the way you who are kinky, brush up on your classics.

Believe me, E.L. James has absolutely NOTHING on the Marquis de Sade master of Sadism.

Or Leopold von Sacher-Masoch! Surely you know what his name derived?!

Writing pain and torture combined with sex from the 1700's (de Sade) and 1800's (Sacher-Masoch), with surprising stories and techniques that will rival any story of today.

And yes, it goes further back than that even, especially in arts.

Get your learning on. =)

However, today, I'm going to share some great finds that are simply whimsical.

And for argument's sake, I'm skipping Bettie Page right now. Though, I adore her, we've seen her stuff a billion times. 

Pony Play, anyone?

If I had to guess I would say this is close to the 1920's, possibly the teens.

1940's Bondage

She's the Domme here.

That's one way to mark your territory!

Fun objectification

She's a little tied up

Interesting book from 1955

19th Century Kink

Returning the favor

I put this one in simply because, Holy Hell if that doesn't look like me when I had brown hair!

Puppy Play

Victorian Fetish Postcard

Truth vs. Fiction: actually living it vs. online play

Oh my...

I'm just going to throw it out there.

There are several times a day that I seriously face palm myself.

This is the down side of belonging to so many groups, and I will put myself over the fire, erotic author groups are sometimes the worse.

Now, don't get me wrong.

They are huge fun for games, pics, memes, what if's, etc.

However, if there are serious discussions, I often, yes, face palm, smack my head, I have even literally smacked my head down into a tabletop reading posts.

If one is bringing up discussion in jest, AWESOME.

I am totally down with the fun, silly, ridiculous scenarios.

Bring on the irony, smut, double innuendos, story time!

Then, there are those who want to get into frank discussions, flex their 'knowing' arms...

and they are just coming off as vag wash = douches.

Now, sadly, I feel awful for these ladies (and sometimes men) who fall for their talk.

Everything these Don Juans of Kink and BDSM say and do send up signals.

Danger! Danger, Will Robinson!

I feel sad for these folks. I have tried to intervene only to be bashed.

Now, granted, I have not had a full on D/s relationship, I have spent many years among Doms and Dommes. I have witnessed, observed, studied. I  have seen things in real life that many only read about.

I have switched to play, to learn, to see what I liked.

I may have a little masochist in me... maybe more than a little.

I am DEEP into kink. I am still curious and want to learn and experience more. I find Master/Slave relationships absolutely beyond fascinating!

I know people in poly relationships. 

Oh my god... I am HIGHLY into this...well, hearing and learning about it, lol.
But you know that whole sandwich fantasy thing.

I have long term friends who swing.

If you have followed me, you know I have stripped, burlesqued, gotten naked purely for fun, have no worries with that.

I think women are absolutely wonderful, sexy, and I lust after some and to be some of them.

I am not ashamed of anything that I have done.

I do not consider it wrong or right...just me.

I have never, nor will ever claim to know all or end all of anything.

I do continue to explore, talk, educate, and study.

I LOVE it all, never wavering from a serious discussion.

And then tonight, I see yet another so called Dom/Master spurting off his views.

And bad sub/slave that I would want to be makes me want to bash him with a baseball bat.

Now that's MY Domme side (I use that loosely, because I really am not at all, just bitchy), because I call bullshit on your ways.

But being me... I make a snarky comment, hoping to be passive in my judgement.

Then, I think that me judging anyone is awful. 

I am super lucky in the relationship that I am and have been in now.

Maybe, I am just trying to say, please, do not trust too lightly.

Study anything and anyone beforehand.

Do not get your heart invested.

And if you want a more in depth view, please visit this website.
His posts are so highly informative!
A Master's Viewpoint of the BDSM World

69

Since this is my 69th post, I thought it would be fitting to talk about what else?!

The 69 Position!

So, I hope you realize that we are going to get a little graphic.

After all, this is adult talk!

I would think the majority of us love oral, giving and receiving.

Isn't it better though when you don't have to take turns?

Mutual Oral Play & Satisfaction

When you can both achieve that blow up at the same time, or virtually the same time?

Collapse at the same time and cuddle up for the night, or morning, or afternoon.

You know what I'm talking about.

At least, I hope that you have all experienced having to stop pleasing your partner in order to squeeze your legs around your partner's head, ride their face and squeal with absolute delight.

Or when you feel as though you just can't take it anymore and try to pull away, but they grasp your ass tighter, holding you there until you cum all over them.

I meant that for men too, get on top and ride her face while you're going after that peach.

I know that woman on top is the go to, but ladies if you like thing perhaps a little rougher or to give up some control, let him get on top. Just make sure that you have a signal to let them know if they are getting down too hard, or you can't breathe because they are plowing you so deep in the heat of the moment.

It happens when they cannot see your face, lol. 

Don't freak out, I meant that to be humorous too.

Don't think that 69 has to be boring either.

Either one of you can be on top, hell, you can both be on your side.

You can roll around during...

I know there are ways for suspended 69, but I haven't made it that far yet!

Have you?

Tell, tell!

Have you tried a tiny bullet vibrator specifically made for oral?

They are not only for women. Give that a shot on your man.

If you dare, both have one for that specialist of positions...

69

Holy fireworks!

This is also a great time to play with flavored creams, edible paints. Add a little flavor to the dining situation. Ice or temperature toys can also come into play here too.

You do not have to spend your whole time in this position purely licking and sucking - though there is nothing wrong with that at all.

Also, don't be afraid to explore further while you're down there. Give a little lick and nibble to surrounding areas, thighs, legs, stomach, further down if you dare. Let your fingers do some walking too. You can always incorporate anal play into this scenario, on either part whoever is or may be into it. Or keep an implement for that nearby, ie. plug, dildo, beads, whatever.

If you haven't found a Valentine's treat for your loved one yet, perhaps a little 69 would be the perfect gift on Sunday.

And if you have never tried it, PLEASE give it a whirl...or two or three!

I am adding some links to informative sites just about this lovely, satisfying position.

There were some great ideas and information in these pages, and none of them are porn!

12 Tips to Make the 69 Position An Awesome Experience

How Do I 69 With a Guy?

The 69 Sex Position - Have you tried it?

Sixty Nine

Wikipedia - 69

Sale ends on New Year's Day

Just a friendly reminder that Ripped & Twisted and Candy & Kink will go back to full price on the New Year.

However, both will still remain Free on Kindle Unlimited.

Latex Love

I only have one item of latex.

It is a mask that hubs bought me.

I have played a wee bit with liquid latex, mostly applying to others and getting to peel it off of them.

However, I have become enamored by all of the variety, sensual outfits, and downright kinkerific latex ensembles out there.

I've created a board on pinterest so that I can lust after the magnificence of them.

I must admit, I am now highly curious to be wrapped up in one of these babies.

I wonder about the skin tight feel of this textile.

Plus, it just looks freak of hot.

I am leaning heavily toward latex fashion being included in my next book.

I think that something should be purchased for my 'research', no?

I love that it can be manipulated to look like something incredibly chic and fashionable or something insane and completely off the hook, fetishy. 

Yes, I definitely want to play with latex.

This was the closest that I've gotten...vinyl, lol.
2009
Then on to the real pretties!