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Maybe it's because I have seen so many people afraid to ask 

Because of judgement

Because of feelings of fear and self worth

Whatever

I feel this blog must be opened back up,a safe space of learning and education.

A free space to explore.

A space to not feel like a freak or outsider.

I don't know exactly, but ask, learn and be sure you will never be judged.

I will get you the best information possible as I know it or from those I know are experts of kink.
Oh there will be silly and fun too.

Til next time!

JLE

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Jennifer Lassalle Edwards

Free Short Story I wrote on Literotica

Through the Ages

An aging Sub confides the story of her life to her nurse.

Links to my books: 
Ripped & Twisted

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PTD1 Links:
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PTD2 Links:

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https://www.books2read.com/u/mqpXNZ

Snow Globe Dreams - A Magical Short Story
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RN17DK7/ref=dbs_a_def_awm_bibl_vppi_i2

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Repost - Sploshing you say?

I thought I would give a little repost of some of my old posts - especially when I see discussions on fetishes and bedroom recreation on certain social media platforms where the said "experts" mangle the idea, aspects, terms, etc. It's wonderful to want to learn about variety in play, but may I recommend not trusting these so-called "Doms", "Alpha's" and such that want to play a role on the web, and try to woo women, but obviously have no clue what their talking about 😂 - maybe just read too many silly stories.
With that said, I've never claimed to be an expert, but I will tell you what I do know, experienced, or discussed with pro's in the LS over the years...much of which I also convey in my novels. Hey, experiences always create the best stories!
I have always wanted this to be a place to learn, which is why I had always done reviews of products that I have actually tested in real life, and to not be ashamed of what you enjoy; sex shouldn't feel guilty, but always should be safe, consensual, and fun.
So...on with Sploshing!

First published March 2, 2017.

Also known as Wet and Messy play (WAM).

Most commonly it deals with food play, but can involve other substances as well.

But have no fear, we are not talking about bodily fluids here! Those festishes are a completely different arena.

Think shaving cream as a pie to the face...or bum.

Sitting on cakes. 

Pouring syrup on a woman, clothed or naked.
It's more the visual aspect for some parties, for others it is the feeling of the sticky, gooey, well, mess.
Normally, it is not followed with sex, although it can be, but for the most part, the people with this kink don't look for intercourse. Yes, there may be two people getting messy, but usually it's for one person's experience of the smell, texture, feeling of the food being spread, poured, dropped on them. For some, it's a humiliation aspect. For others, it's a tactile turn on.
In fact, if you're up for looking up some videos, the majority contain clothed women just getting down and messy!

Now, there are cross-over fetishes too, so what I have talked about is not a steadfast rule; more like basics, a general rundown, if you will.

Seems like these XXXtreme Rubber Sheets would be a good investment if you're into this sort of messy play, or for a cheaper version, perhaps just hit your hardware store for some of those cheap plastic sheets for painting!

Pies to the face are a big portion.

They say it's the feeling of the wet, sticky, slimy on the skin, or it could be the partner that enjoys watching it. I am ALL for food play, but my thing is then eating it or licking it off more than the act of destructing the food or watching it hit the skin, or the feel. Just seems like a good dessert gone to waste, hahaha. I'm completely down with each other getting messy in the mix too.

Remember the post I did on edible body paint and icing? This could be a fun way to start and see if you're into the messiness of sploshing...or just food play, in general.

You could also play around with honey, regular icing, chocolate before smashing a baked good with your ass. Who knows, maybe you'll find more pleasure in sitting on a cake than eating it!

It's also a good idea to avoid getting this stuff all up inside of your delicate lady areas - and shower afterwards. I actually covered that in the notes of Candy & Kink: A Tale of Confectionery Tale of Love & Tasty Perversions.

This add seems like a WAM-er's dream!

Another way to use marshmallow fluff!

They have a great idea, playing in the  tub.

I don't know if I would get this extreme, but to me it looks like added fun, and I love fun and even some laughs in the bedroom. Maybe it's time to up the ante from just food play!
Or if you're a true splosher (WAM), how about instigating a good food fight for some innocent kicks? 😜

Amazon

Everywhere Else

Sinthetics...Venturing into Male Dolls: Slutever

I have to say that I am absolutely intrigued and fascinated.

Sinthetics is once again breaking new ground, climbing new peaks, or should I say penises?

By creating these pretty life-like male love dolls that having women wanting to mount those mountains. 

If I were a single woman, I must admit, I would probably be one who makes this purchase.

Why not?

It seems these companions are the future of masturbation.

According to Sinthetics, it's a much desired avenue too with their male dolls now at equal demand as female dolls. 

This is a company that I would totally want to work for, art meets function...and fucking.

Will it give us a magical vaginal experience?

Crystal Dildos?

Apparently so, from a place called Chakrub.

I am all for new products, however, I'm not sure what I think of these.

Or maybe it's the price, as I can get some pretty unique and awesome glass dildos for a fraction of the cost. I'm not sure if I'm will to pay close to $300 for a 'spiritual' encounter with myself.

But hey, to each their own!

Of course, the site claims that these dildos also have healing powers?!

Maybe that's worth it?

Although, I am pretty sure my pussy's powers are a.o.k. at the moment.

Besides one of its healing powers is helping anxiety, and I'm pretty sure any orgasm will help with that little situation. 

Here's a quick article that Popsugar did about them. 

If anyone gives them a go, let me know if you've become cunt-lightened!

Safe Sex...Toy Disposal

In the random conversations, the subject of getting rid of old, broken, damaged toys came up.

This led me to do some research because a few years ago I had heard about a company that did a "Recycle your Rabbit" Day.

Lo and behold, I came across this site:

Sex Toy Recycling.

The Sex Toy Recycling process works like this: You send your unwanted sex toy to STR (email them and they'll send you a Tyvek pouch).
But don't be a nasty skank, wash it before you send it to them please.
They then sterilize and process it. Plastics, metals and batteries are recycled as needed for non-toy purposes.

The STR website says: "We then use a patent-pending process similar to that used to recycle athletic shoes into rubber surfaces for basketball courts. The rubber and silicone is ground up, mixed with a binding agent, and remolded into new toys. For sanitary and safety reasons, each toy is then coated with a layer of new silicone. The result is a sex toy made of at least 95% post-consumer materials."

Your old faithful can live a new life and come again and again!

Bedroom Recreation - Thigh Restraints

Thigh Restraint Sling

This one is very similar to the one we have.

It is padded around the neck and thigh portion. 

The straps adjust to pull the legs closer to the shoulders.

This allows for deeper penetration, and of course, forced exposure for any pleasure or pain being induced by your partner.

I have to say it is more comfortable than it looks and keeps you in a position that would hard to manage for long periods of time on your own, especially if you arms are also bound. It allows you to relax your body and forget about having to keep yourself in a certain position. And that means, getting to go into the flow of play and not worrying about losing your expected stance. 

I did find out you are still able to close your legs to a certain degree - you know when you're at the point of stop but don't?! But this could also be because I am very short, so the straps only adjust so far, and we did not try to poke extra holes to manipulate my legs more.

Depending how long your sessions are, do expect to find some after effects. Much like when your foot may fall asleep, legs could be a little numb and then have that tingly sensation in the joint area between your hip and thigh. 

You can find these for pretty reasonable prices, especially on Amazon. I'm not sure where ours came from, as you know, they are usually bought and sprung on me. 

Surprise!!

As I searched, I did find them ranging from between the $16 and $40 dollar range.

(One link is above)

So it's totally a fun item for a smaller cost!

Sploshing you say?

Also known as Wet and Messy play (WAM).

Most commonly it deals with food play, but can involve other substances as well.

But have no fear, we are not talking about bodily fluids here! Those festishes are a completely different arena.

Think shaving cream as a pie to the face...or bum.

Sitting on cakes. 

Pouring syrup on a woman, clothed or naked.

Seems like these XXXtreme Rubber Sheets would be a good investment if you're into this sort of messy play, or for a cheaper version, perhaps just hit your hardware store for some of those cheap plastic sheets for painting!

Pies to the face seem to be a big portion.

They say it's the feeling of the wet, sticky, slimy on the skin, or it could be the partner that enjoys watching it. I am ALL for food play, but my thing is then eating it or licking it off more than the act of destructing the food or watching it hit the skin. Just seems like a good dessert gone to waste, hahaha. I'm completely down with each other getting messy in the mix too.

Remember the post I did on edible body paint and icing? This could be a fun way to start and see if you're into the messiness of sploshing.

You could also play around with honey, regular icing, chocolate before smashing a baked good with your ass.

It's also a good idea to avoid getting this stuff all up inside of your delicate lady areas - or shower afterwards. I actually covered that in the notes of Candy & Kink: A Tale of Confectionery Tale of Love & Tasty Perversions.

This add seems like a WAM-er's dream!

Another way to use marshmallow fluff!

They have a great idea, playing in the  tub.

I don't know if I would get this extreme, but to me it looks like added fun, and I am love fun and even some laughs in the bedroom. Maybe it's time to up the ante on food play!

Amazon

Everywhere Else

Flexi Felix from Fun Factory! Let's talk anal play.

Fun Factory says Felix is your butt's best friend.
And let's face it, he's just too cute to be scary!
In case you weren't quite sure, yes, it's anal beads.
He was part of my Christmas of Butt Love Extravaganza.
I often recommend beads for early anal play, after you've experimented with tongues and fingers.
There are very small plugs that work too, but beads are a slow work up, flexible, and feel a little less intrusive - especially if you're hesitant about anal play.
We'll discuss scarier looking anal hooks at another time.

He is super soft and flexible with the beads increasing in size the closer you get to his head.
I will state that he is long, a little over a foot, but don't be intimidated by length.
No one ever said that you had to go further than the first bead on his cute tail...to begin.

And as always, lube always aids in the fun.


I've gotten questions about anal play before, the most frequent that people are scared to address is mess. Here is my short answer. Sex often includes bodily secretions, however, anal is usually planned for, or you have an inkling it could be happening. This way, we can take extra time to make sure our hygiene is taken care of. If it is spontaneous, you often know if something is around up there, that's when you can halt play and decide how to approach the block in play from there - either skip it or move on to another activity. In my experience, though, the mess is just a ton of lube.

If your curiosity is piqued about beginning anal play and have questions, I have attached a great article from one of my favorite sites, Kinkly.
Your Top 10 Questions about Anal Play Answered! 

And while you are there, you can check out the Sexy Excerpt from my first novel Ripped & Twisted that they graciously posted!

Lubricant Tales and a Free Sample

Let's face it. Sometimes, no matter how excited you are to get down and dirty, your body may react otherwise. You may need a little help to ease into the situation.

Or, it may be a scenario where lube is absolutely vital to smooth transitions.

*cough*buttstuff*cough*

 Different tools, implements, also require a little help at times, especially if they are larger or oddly shaped, or depending on the materials they are made from.

Then, there's just the fact that as we ladies age, we have, at times, issues lubricating ourselves.

There are so many options out there now as well.

Lubes that desensitize for longer play.

Lubes that warm.

Lubes that tingle.

Flavored lubes.

It's a virtual lube buffet!

We always sample and test out new ones.

One thing I will tell you is that I am not a fan of lube launchers.

In theory, it's a great idea.
You're able to apply liberal amounts of lube deeper, and thicker, than fingers perhaps can all in one shot.
However, in my experience, and you may want to graze over this.
Within minutes, my stomach flopped, ached, cramped, and I was clenching my tail and had to cease all play for the night. For me, this was just a thick enema. I can't handle that much in the back door.
Lesson learned.
And a night of embarrassment accomplished.

We are huge fans of Astroglide and K-Y, which are popular brands, and can be found virtually anywhere. In fact, I've bought tons of samples for my signings to give away.
If you want to give a lube a try, I will suggest Astroglide for sure.
In fact, if you go to their website, you can pick from selected products of theirs, and they will send a free sample to your door.
Astroglide Free Sample

Couples Massager

I actually received a question about one of these this week.
Luckily, I have experience with couples massagers.

In case you aren't familiar, these were the type I was asked about.

Two popular brands are We-Vibe and Lelo.
(Click the links to see their varieties.)
Hell, I've even seen a version at Walgreens!

These are remote controlled, and now, some can even be controlled by an app on your smartphone too.
Here's the fun thing about these little guys: you wear them during sex.
Yes!
Double the pleasure, double the fun.

It gets slipped on inside of the lady parts. Of course, the outside is for clitorial action, the inside for G fun. Then, your man can come on in to enjoy the vibrations, and you, while he controls the speed of the vibe.
(I would recommend a little lube for smooth entry of both. 😉)

These can also be worn alone, and your partner can control your vibrations whether it be in the next room or out at dinner or out shopping or another state. Get your freak on.

However, it is more fun together.

An automatic spice up.

Things don't always have to be kink in the bedroom.

Sure, we love that too, but it's not involved 100% of the time.

Lingerie.

It's such an easy way to spice up a night, yet how many times do we wear it?

I'm guilty.

I have a drawer full, sweet to raunchy. Some even still has tags on it.

I couldn't tell you the last time I put some on though.

Why not?

I couldn't even tell you, lol.

This is especially fun for those of us in relationships that have been over a decade.

Let's face it. We become complacent. Even our bra and panties become more mundane.

We know we don't always match.

Lingerie automatically makes you feel sexier, even just a fancy new bra and panty set.

Your mate will know it's time for some action.

It's a subtle way to initiate the romance, sexy time, and at times, your man/woman will like that.

Why should they always initiate?

That alone is a tiny way to spice things up.

Plus, you will just look hot as hell. 

It doesn't have to be this intricate either. This would be for more 'play' time rather than just a night of nookie, but hell if that isn't fun too.

So, why not pull out some special lingerie tonight?

It's like unwrapping a present, and you're the gift, but you both get the pleasure.

A Little Silly FYI

It's been over two years, since I have lost padding.

In fact, my tush has gained padding over that time.

In the last few months, I have been resuming my old fitness regime, thus my booty is losing the fluff.

There is a definite increased sting as you lose fat on your a$$.

Just saying...

I forgot how that feels over the past few years.

I'm not complaining, just pointing out that the pain is escalated without any new toys!

;)

And I don't know about you, but it does!

Or if I am completely stressed out, being grabbed, bent over, bottom exposed and spanked on the spur immediately relieves some of my cranky, anxiety and stress.

It's only when I'm in the middle of cooking or bent with my head in the oven that I resist a bit...it's precarious, LOL.

Afternoon Quickie - Twilight/Violet Wand

Written review link below.

Kinktastic Knicknack - Wand Review

Tails...Bling for your bum

It may or may not be known that I have a fascination with butt plugs.

It should be clear as I stuck one on the cover of my first book, subtly. 

My collection is wide and varied.

Today, I wanted to talk about one of my pretty pony tails.

(We'll get into the bunny tail another day <- disaster with lube)

Aren't they pretty?

And you can do kitty play with them too.

For those who worry, the tail actually is removable from the glass plug, which makes for easy cleaning of both parts.

The glass is very comfortable, and the size of the one I was given is a perfect fit.

Now to those who are skeptical, you don't have to be into pet play to have fun with a tail. 

It can be all about a new sensation play.

The long tail is super soft, and there is definitely something to be said about the swishing of it against your skin, the back of your thighs, against your butt cheeks, even the sides of your thighs or your lower back if you get to swinging it around.
-Which I may or may not have done goofing around with it while enjoying some other attention from a hand doing a few extra smacks, or you know something.

(Not mine, but pretty much looks like this)

And they come so many colors!

https://crystaldelights.com/

Besides, who says everything kinky has to be intense or serious.

These are fun, cute, sexy, and a little quirky.

So, really play when you play. 

It's okay to laugh  while you f%#k after all.

Enjoy your bedroom recreation on another level of fun.

Sensory Deprivation?

Yay or nay?

I know some people are completely against it.

They do not like their whole face covered, perhaps feel claustrophobic, suffocated.

And I totally get that, but I find it can be a complete new experience.

Have you tried a sensory deprivation suit? 

Looks weird, right?

Let's look at it in a different way.

Imagine not knowing what's coming.

You can't see anything. Your hearing is muffled. Your breathing is heated.

When something touches you, you're not sure what it is. The slap, touch, pinch is altered.

Still not intrigued?

Would you be willing to start with just the deprivation mask?

There are many varieties from completely restricted to ones which have 'air' holes.

Think of it as a few steps further than the mundane blindfold.

I sort of have an affinity for the animal shaped ones...

Maybe take baby steps in this field if you are hesitant about feeling closed off.

Masks period are fun. Begin with a fun half or 3/4 face mask before covering your whole head.

It's definitely a unique experience. 

Maybe it's a limit/boundary you could try pushing.

Just for fun. This is one of me from years ago.

Now, I had to cut eyes in my suit eventually when I started using it for stage, but you get the idea.

(And sorry, here I had on another outfit underneath because I had a two minute change time)

But I was walked on my all fours on a leash across stage in this fun outfit.. 

Goody! May is upon us!

Do you know what that means?!

Masturbation Month!

I have posts galore planned. We can let our fingers doing the walking.

We can explore dildos, vibes, tongues...

Scientific benefits to orgasms, why not more a day?

Mutual masturbation.

Or just watching a partner masturbate.

Masturbation techniques for guys and gals.

So much more!

Because let's face it, whether you're single, married, have multiple partners, we all deserve self-love.

Come On Girl...Get On Top

Bustle

I must admit, this is one position that has never failed me.

Every. Single. Time. I achieve the big 'O.'

Sure, it's not the most exciting position out there, but to me all positions are exciting.

It's definitely enjoyable.

There are no acrobatics involved, no gravity defying feats, no worrying about dropping to your head.

However, in this position, there is definite stimulation of the mons pubis, along with the clitoris that results in an explosion!

Imagine those pre-pubescent times humping a pillow in early exploration.

What? You didn't do that?

Except this pillow is warm, working back, and has a nice cock penetrating too.

So, see that pretty pic?

It's all about sliding and grinding, not bouncing up and down in a sitting position.

I find in sliding and grinding, some slow circles too, I don't even need to lend myself a hand in this position.

You can also play with how deep or hard you want to go.

There are many variations.

You may want to slide until your partner is almost completely out of you, just leaving his tip in for a few seconds before you slam back down.

However, when I'm getting close, I just can't do that one, lol. 

However, it's difficult even still for most women to climax without even more direct stimulation of the clitoris. It's fun to either do it yourself, or have him help along, or even together.

I love when he pushes my hand, 'forcing' me to play with the little bean.

You can always use a mini vibrator.

Another favorite are silicone cock-rings that have a mini-bullet attached and encased in a soft jelly-type coating. THOSE are fun with all positions!

And sometimes, it's just fun to surprise your man, jump on top of him and take advantage!

So, girls, Get On Top!