Friday Query...

What's your preference in buying your adult items?

Do you buy online?

Do you like to get your kink from a brick & mortar store?

The adult store we used to frequent had an awesome rewards program with money back to go toward future purchases. Plus, it's fun to feel out items in real life.

Do you have more fun at 'Fun Parties' at a friend's home?

Curious minds want to know!

Funnies

I am obsessed with the dirty food memes!

They have me cracking up!

And we all need a laugh!

Book stuffs ahead!

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I got business cards.

Does this make me an official literary pornographer?

Hahaha!!

I love my cute pencils.

Pretty much, I've been shopping for swag for the Author signing coming up, and little things to give away with paperback purchases.

Flexi Felix from Fun Factory! Let's talk anal play.

Fun Factory says Felix is your butt's best friend.
And let's face it, he's just too cute to be scary!
In case you weren't quite sure, yes, it's anal beads.
He was part of my Christmas of Butt Love Extravaganza.
I often recommend beads for early anal play, after you've experimented with tongues and fingers.
There are very small plugs that work too, but beads are a slow work up, flexible, and feel a little less intrusive - especially if you're hesitant about anal play.
We'll discuss scarier looking anal hooks at another time.

He is super soft and flexible with the beads increasing in size the closer you get to his head.
I will state that he is long, a little over a foot, but don't be intimidated by length.
No one ever said that you had to go further than the first bead on his cute tail...to begin.

And as always, lube always aids in the fun.


I've gotten questions about anal play before, the most frequent that people are scared to address is mess. Here is my short answer. Sex often includes bodily secretions, however, anal is usually planned for, or you have an inkling it could be happening. This way, we can take extra time to make sure our hygiene is taken care of. If it is spontaneous, you often know if something is around up there, that's when you can halt play and decide how to approach the block in play from there - either skip it or move on to another activity. In my experience, though, the mess is just a ton of lube.

If your curiosity is piqued about beginning anal play and have questions, I have attached a great article from one of my favorite sites, Kinkly.
Your Top 10 Questions about Anal Play Answered! 

And while you are there, you can check out the Sexy Excerpt from my first novel Ripped & Twisted that they graciously posted!

Oh the Naughty Girls Get it Good.

We joked this was the Christmas of ButtLovin'.

I'm sure you will see some of those goodies as well soon.

However, it seems it was a mask extravaganza too!

We like to play with masks.

I have few different varieties, and Husband decided to add to the collection.

Three are leather and in fun colors.

They were handmade for us.

I will get the card and put a link up for where he procured them.

Don't judge me, I love the smell of leather.

I also sort of have a thing for the feel of it.

Maybe it's throwback to my metal/goth days, lol.

Then, there's this lovely little furry fox number, a fun addition to my kitty ones.

Why not add to the pet play?

I am told a fox tail may be arriving soon too. 😉

Tis the Season of Giving

I actually brought this up to my husband yesterday.

I suggested that we begin new evening traditions after work.

We usually have dinner, have a few cocktails, watch a movie, fall asleep on the sofa, and realize we have to be up way too early. It's becoming habit.

Ugh!

I thought maybe we could give something new a try.

Maybe we could slip in some fun time between the usual.

It doesn't have to be a marathon play session every time we go for it.

We have far too large a collection for sexual enjoyment to be idly sitting in our office/playroom gathering dust, including that damn swing!

Even if it's giving each other a massage one night, I want to increase our sensual interaction.

I don't want to become a couple that spirals down the road to celibacy, or become bored with each other. That's just not us, and we've been so busy and exhausted with our schedules, I could see it eventually going in that direction.

Noooooo!

I mean, we used to be the couple that started each morning, no matter how early, with some sort of hanky-panky, be it oral, full on f*$k, spanking session, or something!

We're the couple that for every holiday usually exchange at least one kinky gift. We even exchange Great Pumpkin fun on Halloween. 

By the way, I saw those packages arriving this week in all of that black plastic wrap!
Plus, it's fun for me (us) to try all sorts of new items and situations because I love putting scenarios that I have not seen in other erotic novels in mine. And afterwards, I can always say, "Yes, you can do that with your partner!" 

So how coincidental was it that the Kinkly weekly newsletter arrived in my inbox this morning with the same topic covered?

A New, Sexy Tradition: Giving Pleasure

Pleasure is the gift that keeps on giving.

I think Christmas morning should begin with a Bang...or a blow.

Play Kiss me under the mistletoe...and be strategic!

I guarantee your day will be all the better for it.

Lubricant Tales and a Free Sample

Let's face it. Sometimes, no matter how excited you are to get down and dirty, your body may react otherwise. You may need a little help to ease into the situation.

Or, it may be a scenario where lube is absolutely vital to smooth transitions.

*cough*buttstuff*cough*

 Different tools, implements, also require a little help at times, especially if they are larger or oddly shaped, or depending on the materials they are made from.

Then, there's just the fact that as we ladies age, we have, at times, issues lubricating ourselves.

There are so many options out there now as well.

Lubes that desensitize for longer play.

Lubes that warm.

Lubes that tingle.

Flavored lubes.

It's a virtual lube buffet!

We always sample and test out new ones.

One thing I will tell you is that I am not a fan of lube launchers.

In theory, it's a great idea.
You're able to apply liberal amounts of lube deeper, and thicker, than fingers perhaps can all in one shot.
However, in my experience, and you may want to graze over this.
Within minutes, my stomach flopped, ached, cramped, and I was clenching my tail and had to cease all play for the night. For me, this was just a thick enema. I can't handle that much in the back door.
Lesson learned.
And a night of embarrassment accomplished.

We are huge fans of Astroglide and K-Y, which are popular brands, and can be found virtually anywhere. In fact, I've bought tons of samples for my signings to give away.
If you want to give a lube a try, I will suggest Astroglide for sure.
In fact, if you go to their website, you can pick from selected products of theirs, and they will send a free sample to your door.
Astroglide Free Sample

Swag and Promotional Packs

In my tiny realm of erotica/BDSM readership, I am known for my use of plugs in my stories, along with many other implements...

and maybe my actual plug collection.

I am attending my first live signing next year at an erotic writers' convention.

I have often joked that I should give away butt plugs when people buy my paperbacks.

The joking gave way to actually considering it.

I have been picking up usual author 'swag' such as pencils, rack cards, business cards, stickers, candy.

Mr. JLE keeps asking, "I thought you were going to give away butt plugs?"

So, I have been trying to find reputable places to find nice anal plugs for a wholesale, bulk price, that won't kill me if I were to give them away if people bought say two or three of my books.

I would like them to be aesthetically pleasing, and maybe even one I could stand behind...or have up the behind! Depending on my searches, I may offer different implements of pleasure depending on the novel and package I put together.

So my search is on for them so that I can provide Kinky Collections! 

Erotic Reads, Deliciously Deviant Langiappe!

Although, it won't be one of these...

Though adorable and even though the feathery puff removes, lube just makes them a gooey mess.

You have to be delicate when cleaning them up.