Tails...Bling for your bum

It may or may not be known that I have a fascination with butt plugs.

It should be clear as I stuck one on the cover of my first book, subtly. 

My collection is wide and varied.

Today, I wanted to talk about one of my pretty pony tails.

(We'll get into the bunny tail another day <- disaster with lube)

Aren't they pretty?

And you can do kitty play with them too.

For those who worry, the tail actually is removable from the glass plug, which makes for easy cleaning of both parts.

The glass is very comfortable, and the size of the one I was given is a perfect fit.

Now to those who are skeptical, you don't have to be into pet play to have fun with a tail. 

It can be all about a new sensation play.

The long tail is super soft, and there is definitely something to be said about the swishing of it against your skin, the back of your thighs, against your butt cheeks, even the sides of your thighs or your lower back if you get to swinging it around.
-Which I may or may not have done goofing around with it while enjoying some other attention from a hand doing a few extra smacks, or you know something.

(Not mine, but pretty much looks like this)

And they come so many colors!

https://crystaldelights.com/

Besides, who says everything kinky has to be intense or serious.

These are fun, cute, sexy, and a little quirky.

So, really play when you play. 

It's okay to laugh  while you f%#k after all.

Enjoy your bedroom recreation on another level of fun.

Sensory Deprivation?

Yay or nay?

I know some people are completely against it.

They do not like their whole face covered, perhaps feel claustrophobic, suffocated.

And I totally get that, but I find it can be a complete new experience.

Have you tried a sensory deprivation suit? 

Looks weird, right?

Let's look at it in a different way.

Imagine not knowing what's coming.

You can't see anything. Your hearing is muffled. Your breathing is heated.

When something touches you, you're not sure what it is. The slap, touch, pinch is altered.

Still not intrigued?

Would you be willing to start with just the deprivation mask?

There are many varieties from completely restricted to ones which have 'air' holes.

Think of it as a few steps further than the mundane blindfold.

I sort of have an affinity for the animal shaped ones...

Maybe take baby steps in this field if you are hesitant about feeling closed off.

Masks period are fun. Begin with a fun half or 3/4 face mask before covering your whole head.

It's definitely a unique experience. 

Maybe it's a limit/boundary you could try pushing.

Just for fun. This is one of me from years ago.

Now, I had to cut eyes in my suit eventually when I started using it for stage, but you get the idea.

(And sorry, here I had on another outfit underneath because I had a two minute change time)

But I was walked on my all fours on a leash across stage in this fun outfit.. 

Orgasms and Vibrators, a little history lesson.

A long time ago, in a century far away, women were believed to not have sex drive.

It was unheard of then for women to actually crave sex.

So when women of the Victorian Era would go to their doctor complaining of irritability, restlessness,  strange kinky daydreams, weird heavy feelings in their lower abdomen, and wetness between their legs, those smart medical gents dubbed these women afflicted with "hysteria."  (This comes from the Greek word for uterus.)

From Psychology Today:

But ironically, women's sexual pleasure was the furthest thing from the minds of the male doctors who invented vibrators almost two centuries ago. They were interested in a labor-saving device to spare their hands the fatigue they developed giving handjobs to a steady stream of 19th century ladies who suffered from “hysteria,” a vaguely defined ailment easily recognizable today as sexual frustration. 

So it seems that massages with happy endings are a long standing tonic for all sorts of ailments.

Thus Dr. J. Mortimer Granville invented a machine to save all of these weary doctors some time from patients v-jays everyday and probably their fingers and wrists from cramping.

However, the first medical vibrators were HUGE and could only be used in the office itself.

They were such a huge hit with the Victorian sexually frustrated ladies that they began to demand versions for their homes. 

Now, I want to point out that phallic forms and devices were used long before this period, and encouraged to be used to relieve the tensions women had. However, the Victorian era was so straight-laced that any form of sexual self stimulation was deemed immoral.

I can only imagine that's why women went to their physicians because then it could not seem like a perverted proclivity, but an actual medical ailment.

It's just funny that some of the massage techniques employed by the doctors and nurses included oiling up their fingers to penetrate the ladies lovely vaginas while massaging their clitoral region with their hand. Luckily, the new vibrating hysteria machines were recognized as medicine for these ladies (married, widowed, single) who could not get their groove on with anyone else. 

As vibration machines entered more houses, they became known for other uses as not to upset the delicate moral values of the time. I mean, we still see the ads for 'neck massagers.' My violet wand is advertised for better skin, reducing wrinkles even today!

So thank you Dr. J. Mortimer Granville for you spicy invention.

You bring so many of us relief, joy, reduced stress and better sleep!

The variety is endless.

Happy first day of Masturbation Month!

Kinkly.com and Me

If you have not been there, may I suggest kinkly.com?

This site is simply amazing!

Straight up sex talk with a twist!

(to quote them)

It is highly educational, informative, funny.

There are lists of great blogs.

You can ask questions and have them answered by experts.

There are product reviews.

There are sexy stories.

Basically, it's the blog I dream to be when I grow up.

Which leads me to this.

They have me featured with a free excerpt of Ripped & Twisted!

And it's one that is not here on my blog!

How honored am I to be on that site?!

So, go give kinkly.com a visit, and while you are there, take a peek at my sexy free excerpt!

Clicky here!

Goody! May is upon us!

Do you know what that means?!

Masturbation Month!

I have posts galore planned. We can let our fingers doing the walking.

We can explore dildos, vibes, tongues...

Scientific benefits to orgasms, why not more a day?

Mutual masturbation.

Or just watching a partner masturbate.

Masturbation techniques for guys and gals.

So much more!

Because let's face it, whether you're single, married, have multiple partners, we all deserve self-love.

Come On Girl...Get On Top

Bustle

I must admit, this is one position that has never failed me.

Every. Single. Time. I achieve the big 'O.'

Sure, it's not the most exciting position out there, but to me all positions are exciting.

It's definitely enjoyable.

There are no acrobatics involved, no gravity defying feats, no worrying about dropping to your head.

However, in this position, there is definite stimulation of the mons pubis, along with the clitoris that results in an explosion!

Imagine those pre-pubescent times humping a pillow in early exploration.

What? You didn't do that?

Except this pillow is warm, working back, and has a nice cock penetrating too.

So, see that pretty pic?

It's all about sliding and grinding, not bouncing up and down in a sitting position.

I find in sliding and grinding, some slow circles too, I don't even need to lend myself a hand in this position.

You can also play with how deep or hard you want to go.

There are many variations.

You may want to slide until your partner is almost completely out of you, just leaving his tip in for a few seconds before you slam back down.

However, when I'm getting close, I just can't do that one, lol. 

However, it's difficult even still for most women to climax without even more direct stimulation of the clitoris. It's fun to either do it yourself, or have him help along, or even together.

I love when he pushes my hand, 'forcing' me to play with the little bean.

You can always use a mini vibrator.

Another favorite are silicone cock-rings that have a mini-bullet attached and encased in a soft jelly-type coating. THOSE are fun with all positions!

And sometimes, it's just fun to surprise your man, jump on top of him and take advantage!

So, girls, Get On Top!

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New York Times, USA Today, and International bestselling author, E.K. Blair, takes her readers on an emotional roller coaster with her books. A former first grade teacher with an imagination that runs wild. Daydreaming and zoning out is how she was often found in high school. Blair tends to drift towards everything dark and moody and has been noted as 'The Queen of Dark and Twisted'. Give her a character and she will take pleasure in breaking them down, digging into their core to find what lies underneath. Aside from writing, E.K. Blair finds pleasure in music, drinking her Starbucks in peace, and spending time with her friends. She's a thinker, an artist, a wife, a mom, and everything in between. NEWSLETTER SIGNUP http://www.ekblair.com/2014/05/stay-in-the-know/ FOLLOW ME Amazon- http://amzn.to/1RYD3I1 Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/authorekblair/ Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/EKBlairAuthor/ Website- www.ekblair.com

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